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HOW TO SPOT A LIAR
COMMON KNOWLEDGE: It has been said over the years that there are some certain things that help you find out if someone is lying or not. Pupil dialates, heartbeats raise, voice frequency is lowered, etc. The truth is that you can't base on these facts. Why?

Simply because you can't notice any diffenence on an individual. It is not possible to see if one's pupil dialates or not and accusing him of lying cause you just can't, sight does not have the ability to do it. Nevertheless, if you try testing these facts you will either end up making a fool of yourself or mistaken. However, there are more sophisticated ways to spot a liar wich I am going to mention.

MALE/FEMALE: In this guide, I thought that it would be better if I posted different instruction for each sex, since there is a difference between a male and a female liar. Male liars tend to be more anxious when it comes to lying, while females are calmer and handle the situation with a better attitude. We will lok further on it.


~MALE LIAR~



LIAR'S DEFENSES: First of all, the number one defense of a male liar is that he won't let you talk. He is too afraid of your possible uncovering the truth that he will keep distracting you. Another technique is that he holds a close distance with you. He tries to look more friendly and avoids to look at your eyes (that doesn't me that he never looks at them, don't get confused). Also, he may fold his hands to protect himself, but he only does that when you're talking. He doesn't move from his position and most of the time, if he's still calm, he concetrates on something. Other techniques have been mentioned, such as yawning, scratching his head or something similar to show that the subject you are currently talking about is not worrying him as he is sure for what he says. However, these techs are used by not so experienced liars and they almost always get caught.

LIAR'S ATTACKS: Offense for a male liar is his favorite approach. Men, by nature, have a characteristic that women don't; they are much more offensive. So, a male liar has developed a series of attacks that intimidate the victim or scare him/her away. First, he talks much faster than he usually does. It has been proved that talking to a person with a higher pace than normal her/his heartbeats raise and he gets more anxious. Thus, liars do that to scare the victim and also, in some cases, to show their certainty. In addition, a liar always yells. Raising his voice will help him boost his determination and retain himself in a level that can fight you and win. However he tries not to yell at you. What I mean is that he doesn't want you to feel opposed to him, he wants you to move along with him. So, he tries to look friendly and usually smiles. At some points he will even agree with you which is definitely not a good sign. The majority of people are too stubborn to agree with someone they argue with. When that happens, be a little more careful. Moreover, he tries to put a lot of pressure on you. He does that by asking you a lot of questions and being ironic with your answer. He will never try to hurt you, he won't even threat you. All he wants is to believe him and he knows that if he tries to do it he will instantly lose the game. So, he makes you vulnerable, he tires you with his repetative questions, his voice, his words, to that point that you believe him just to end this. He confuses you so much that your brain can't work properly or doesn't work at all, so, to avoid making a fool of yourself or because you think you don't have anything else to say you agree with him. I believe that's all, except some minor details.

COUNTER TECHNIQUES: Let's say the person who tries to deceive you uses some of the above techniques. There are a few things you can do to deflect these moves and use them for your own good. Depending on the situation, you can raise a mental barrier against his attacks. Below there's a list of things you can do on each ofthese possibilities:



* He puts pressure on you:

1. If he talks faster than he usually does, tell him to slow down. Even if he's not doing it on purpose, he will lose his train of thought and it won't be easy to come up with a lie to cover his other lie. So, when you do that, make sure to ask to be more specific, to explain you the situation and either one of these things follow: Either he can't come up with something to cover him and he talks nonsence or he busts himself by uncovering the truth. Thus, there's a realy high chance to counter his attack and win.

2. He might try to press you with a lot of questioning. If he does that, answer to him with questions. Don't be specific -you don't have to be anyway- and he will be pissed off in no time. And when he is pissed off, his mind can't function correctly so he has to get confused. As you may have noticed, the main idea of these counter techniques is to confuse the liar. If you achieve that then you should be able to uncover him. However, don't get complacent with the questions cause you might end up confusing yourself. Just be very patient and things will work out.

3. There is a chance that he will try to ask you to explain things to him. It's not that he doesn't understand what you're saying, he just wants to annoy you. If that happens (although most of the time it doesn't) there's not realy a counter tech you can use. This is more like a tip for you. Whatever it is he wants it to be explained just explain to him. When he sees that his move isn't working he'll drop it and try other ways to press you.



* He intimidates you:

1. The first move that the liar thinks intimidates you the most is raising the tone of his voice. Men have been proved to be the most egocentric species on the planet (I don't think that anyone of you denies this). Thus, if one's voice is the only one that can be heard he thinks that he is some kind of a leader to the conversation. Anyways, if he tries to yell you can either yell more or tell him to quiet down. I suggest the latter cause it shows that you're the calm one and that you have no concerns about the argument. In addition, if you tell him to quiet down he himslef will feel that he's overreacting and then, the fact that he's lying will be easier to spot. Nevertheless, if he yells more after your interference, you should consider the possibility that he might be telling the truth. So, be more cautious on that part.

2. Staring somebody's eyes is always intimidating. Even if you are not scared, subconciously you feel threatened. If he tries to stare at your eyes (since we said that it's unlikely to do that for that long, except if he's an experienced liar) you should stare at his eyes too. Try to reflect this fear that he tries to pass on and you will achieve that either if he looks away or he laughs. This may sound weird but laughing is most commonly what betrays liars. If he laughs, I can guarantee that he is lying. Shit, I'll even chop my dick off and throw it on a volcano if he isn't. It's that simple; he laughs, he's lying.

3. If he's holding a close distance with you, you can always walk back, in a way that he doesn't understand why you're doing it. For example, you can pretend that you have a shoelace to tie, a book to lift, etc. You will think of something. However, what I do and I absolutely recommend it is to tell a joke. Not any joke though, you can't say: "Which animal can jump higher than a house? All, houses can't jump". You can try things like "Are you gonna kiss me?" or "I can smell your breakfast". Yeah, I know, the house joke was lame.



* He confuses you:

1. I can assure you this is not an attack a liar will rely on. He may try that if he's desperate but he will most likely fail. This method is about being very general. He will refuse to be more specific and he will talk just to confuse you. However, this is a suicide technique cause you can easily find ou that he's lying. One little mistake and he's done. So, using confusion as his main attack is not something you will encounter.




WHAT BLOWS HIS COVER:

Below there's a list in which there are several things that you have to remember if you want to spot a liar without getting in the whole Attacking/Counter-Attacking process. These tips will help you turn your suspicions into a decision and they are very important. So, the best thing you can do is memorize them.

NOTE: This list is only for inexperienced liars, experienced liars will not make these mistakes.


1. Missing his words.

2. Shaking his voice.

3. Constantly moving

4. Avoiding looking at your eyes AT ALL.

5. Keeping a long distance from you (it makes him feel safer).

6. Studdering

7. Making nervous moves.

-e.g.- My father once had to lie to one of his patient's sons and I can't tell you how nervous he was. He pulled the safety belt so fast that it actually stuck. Thank God the guy was too stupid to understand he was lying.

8. Scratching. Scratching his head, hand, chest, stomache, etc, is definitely a sign. Except of scartching his balls.






~FEMALE LIAR~


LIAR'S DEFENSES: Women use different techniques to defend themselves. This is due to their nature, they tend to be more soft and sensitive. Thus, they try to look defensless (which is kind of ironic) and make you believe that you're putting a lot of pressure on them. Doing that makes you feel guilty and you sympathize with the liar. When you do that, it's almost certain that you're going to be deceived, so be careful not to hit their defenses.

Another common defense female liars use is "dead silence". They just stop talking to you. There's a procedure after that in which, if you're not careful, you're gonna get screwed:

[1] Liar stops talking to you.
[2] You keep asking her questions. Again she's not talking.
[3] You get irritated but you put that "I'm so pissed right now" smile on your face.
[4] You're realy angry and you start yelling. She keeps ignoring you.
[5] You're starting to understand that the only way to get her to talk to you is be softer and sympathize with her. So, you do it.


Those in red are the dangerous parts, be extremely cautious. I recommend you put your ego aside and just stop talking too.

NOTE: This method is only used when female liars are convinced that you have kind of understood that she's lying.

LIAR'S ATTACKS: The attacking technique most commonly used by female liars is alluring. By using their feminine nature they manipulate you to believe everything they say. Now, I'm not implying that they just talk and you agree to everything they say. Certain SE skills are required to use this advantage, otherwise they're just going to fail real hard.

What female liars do is use their attractiveness to make you nervous. This doesn't necessarily include looks, even their attitude can be alluring. Let's say your belief is a stronghold which will try to block any attack. Now, male liars will just attempt to break the door. However, female liars are more sneaky, they will explore the stronghold in circles until the find a little whole where they can penetrate to your stronghold. Once in, the only thing left to do is cut the rope that holds the door. After that it's all over.

COUNTER TECHNIQUES: I have mentioned what female liars do to attack your psychological stronghold. Now, there are a few things you can do to counter-attack them and keep yourself clear for any further attacks. Be very cautious though, cause this is more like a psychological war, you must be prepared to lose.


* She tries to allure you:

Don't take any shit. She will mostly try to copliment you, commend on your clothes, eyes, hands etc before she starts talking to you. However, it's very difficult for her to do it without you questioning whether shes kissing ass or not. So, my tip is take everything as asskissing. Don't offend her, just hold an ironic stance against her. Show that you're not falling for anything and, every now and then, tell her to get to the point. She will see that you're not playing game and she'll try to find a new way to convince you. However, it's gonna be very difficult for her since you reflected her main attack.

You should better work on that CT cause you have the highest chances to beat the liar and keep yourself clean.


* She tries to look helpless:

When she does that, your reaction trully depends on your character. If you're not that soft, you can always tell her to stop. Showing that you don't care how pitiful she is will make her stop trying. However, you may be the soft character and, subconciously, sympathize with her. For your own good, DO NOT FALL INTO THAT TRAP. Always remember that she's doing it on purpose, she wants to make you vulnerable. That's a rule you should never break.


WHAT BLOWS HER COVER:

Below there's a list in which there are several things that you have to remember if you want to spot a liar without getting in the whole Attacking/Counter-Attacking process. These tips will help you turn your suspicions into a decision and they are very important. So, the best thing you can do is memorize them.

NOTE: This list is only for inexperienced liars, experienced liars will not make these mistakes.


1. Staring at your eyes.

2. Constantly smiling.

3. Touching your hand or chest.

4. Putting her hair behid her ears. It shows she's nervous with the situation and can't cope with lying.

5. Moving her body without moving her position.

6. Missing her words.

7. Shaking her voice.

8. Studdering.







That's all for now, feel free to add anything you feel it needs to be added.

I put a lot of effort to that guide so, I realy hope you like it and appreciate it. Thanks.